I often get some version of the question "So what type of things do you teach?" I most often hear this from parents who are considering whether to enroll their child. It seems that they're almost never asking about strikes, footwork, or escapes from holds (although I do teach all those things). They're more curious about the principles and values that I will attempt to instill in their child. I began my martial arts training in Tae Kwon Do under Michael Miller. Through his classes I learned 5 tenets, or principles: Courtesy, Integrity, Perseverance, Self Control, and Indomitable Spirit. Later I practiced with John Hallett, who added modesty to the top the list. These stuck with me and I have always incorporated them into my teaching, along with the good old Golden Rule: treat others how you wish to be treated. I teach all my students that these principles have value on the mats and in daily life, wherever they may be.
Modesty: As long as I can remember I have disliked seeing people brag or act with a big ego. There is always room for improvement. Just keep working to get better, without stopping to let everyone know how great you are. I constantly remind students that everyone will experience quick learning, and other things that just won't click. We don't tease others who are struggling, and we certainly don't rub it in when we succeed where they're still trying.
Courtesy: Say please and thank you. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar. In short, don't be a jerk. We can only reach our full potential in martial arts with the help and support of dedicated training partners. People will naturally try to partner with classmates who make practice enjoyable. Rudeness will make us the partner no one wants to practice with, and our skills will stagnate.
Integrity: A person of integrity shows a clear understanding of right and wrong, and stands up for their beliefs. They represent themselves honestly, and apologize when they realized they have wronged someone.
Perseverance: Few worthwhile accomplishments are easy. Hard work pays off. Pursue your goals with patience and persistent effort.
Self Control: This one is huge. A student staying still and listening to instruction. Staying calm when another student is bothering them. Using their bodies carefully, especially when practicing with a partner. These are skills that students will use every day.
Indomitable Spirit: Pursue these principles with effort and intent. Not only when they're convenient or popular, but when those around you try to dissuade you. When life puts obstacles in your path.
These principles guide my actions every day, in all aspects of life. However, I would say the number one thing I try to impart to my students is my desire that they give themselves permission. This could be giving themselves permission to fight back against an attacker, but it's broader than that. I want them to give themselves permission to be good at something. In fact not just good, but excellent.
Wishing you health and happiness,
Jules Embry-Pelrine
Founder/Head Instructor
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